Congratulations, mama! You’ve got your positive pregnancy test, and now you’re thinking about when, where, and HOW to make a pregnancy announcement to your family.
Sharing the news of your pregnancy with loved ones is such a special and exciting moment. But it can feel a bit overwhelming! This news is pretty big after all.
Here, we put together a little guide to help you find the right time to announce your big news, and of course creative ways to let others know that there’s a bun in the oven 😉
There are lots of ways to go about making a pregnancy announcement to your family, friends, work, and social media. Here we’ve compiled some inspiration so that you can find the perfect option!
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Deciding when to announce your pregnancy
The truth is, there is really no right or wrong time to announce your pregnancy, but there are some things to consider to help you figure out the right time for YOU to share the news.
As you may know, once you hit the end of the first trimester the rate of miscarriage drops off dramatically. For many mamas, especially mamas experiencing pregnancy after loss, this is when they can breathe a sigh of relief. And it’s also when most start to feel comfortable spreading the news.
Sharing your pregnancy prior to the end of the first trimester comes with the possibility of also having to share about your miscarriage which is important to consider.
On that note, let me give you a whole list of things to consider when it comes to announcing your pregnancy!
Things to consider when announcing your pregnancy:
- Do you want to do it now, or wait until you know the gender? Some mamas wait until week 20, but lots can’t keep it in that long!
- Do you want work to know yet? Sadly, pregnancy discrimination is a real thing in the workplace. It might be to your benefit to wait to let your supervisor know. This might be a reason to keep your announcement off of social media for a while too.
- Make sure you tell everyone who you want to in-person before putting it on social media! This way no one finds out secondhand
- How do you want to announce your pregnancy? More on this below!
- How does your partner feel about the announcement and attention? Make sure you are on the same page about the whole thing
When should you tell family that you’re pregnant?
This is a much more personal decision and will depend a lot on what your relationship with your family is like. Many mamas will choose to share their pregnancy with their immediate family earlier than with other people.
The huge benefit here is that you can lean on them for support during the challenging first trimester, and they will know what’s going on if you were to experience a loss.
Your decision to tell family (or other people very close to you for that matter!) may also be influenced by how you are feeling and how much time you spend around them.
Will they be wondering why you’re suddenly exhausted and napping a lot more? Or gagging at the smell or sight of certain foods? Morning sickness can really give a pregnancy away. In this case, cluing them in sooner than later may ease your mind and life a bit.
When should you tell your employer you’re pregnant?
For the most part I think it makes sense to wait to tell your employer after the 14 week mark, and maybe even later in pregnancy than that. Like I mentioned above in the considerations, pregnancy discrimination is sadly a real thing.
Many women will wait until they are showing to share their news, but in some cases you’ll have to disclose the information sooner – especially if your symptoms are bad.
Get creative with your maternity leave before you negotiate
One thing I highly recommend is to investigate maternity leave benefits and think through exactly what time you want to take before sharing your news. I know this might sound a little crazy, but most bosses are going to immediately start thinking about what your time away will look like. And if you’ve already thought this through, it’s going to give you an upper hand!
Look into applying your sick days and vacation time to your maternity leave so that more of it is paid. Try to learn about the possibility of easing back into work part time to make your transition back easier.
Above all, remember that it’s impossible to know for sure how you are going heal physically and emotionally from birth and life with a newborn, so be prepared for a possible change of heart.
What about co-workers?
This is another personal choice, but if you’ve got a trusted co-worker, having one person who knows your news can really help! It will make it much easier to get through the day, explain an uptick in breaks and sick days, late arrivals, and doctor’s appointments.
What’s more, in the event of a miscarriage, you’ll have one person at work that kind of knows what you’re coping with and can provide support.
In short, if you are having intense symptoms that are hard to mask, it’s definitely worth it to think through the benefits of sharing vs. waiting until later in the pregnancy. How trustworthy your co-workers are to keep the news quiet should also be a deciding factor.
The bottom line on when to announce your pregnancy?
It’s really about when YOU feel comfortable sharing your news! Here are a few final things to ask yourself:
- If I tell this person, will it increase my anxiety or decrease? Will it feel good for me?
- If I announce my pregnancy on social media at this time, will it increase my anxiety or decrease?
- If I miscarry, do I feel certain people knowing about my pregnancy will help my situation (by offering support) or make it worse?
- How does my partner feel?
Every situation is different. Many women feel comfortable telling close friends/family before the 12 week mark, and then telling social media/bosses/everyone else later in their pregnancy.
Some women feel comfortable sharing their pregnancy with the whole world the moment it happens. And then some women don’t really feel comfortable sharing at all! All situations are unique and 100% valid!
Bottom line, if Sally Jo announced her pregnancy at 12 weeks – don’t feel like you HAVE to announce at the same time she did! Do what feels most comfortable for you!
How to share the big news!
Okay, so now that we’ve gone through some considerations on when to announce your pregnancy, let’s talk about how to do it!
There are so many fun, custom ways to announce your pregnancy, clever and funny photos to take, or you can just go the old-fashioned route and make a phone call or announce it over dinner.
Pregnancy reveal ideas
Before we get into some more specific scenarios and situations, I wanted to share some of my favorite ideas with you to see if it sparks inspiration:
- Get a custom printed shirt, mug, ornaments, hats or other object for grandparents-to-be with their new title, this is especially great if it’ll be their first grandkid. Works really well for new aunts and uncles, too!
- Wear a matching shirt with your partner that reveals the big news in a clever way
- Wrap up an adorable onesies to give to reveal the news, like this hello grandma and grandpa one
- Serve a meal with all “baby items” and see if anyone catches on…baby corn, baby back ribs, baby shrimp, baby carrots…you get the idea 😉
- Crack a joke about a “bun in the oven” with an actual bun in the oven and watch your family’s faces light up!
- Use dessert! Nothing beats a cake with an exciting message on it
How can I creatively announce my pregnancy to my husband, wife, or partner?
Okay, now with that quick brainstorm finished. Let’s talk about specific people. So, the very first pregnancy announcement you’re going to make is likely to your partner!
I basically just ran out of the bathroom excitedly, but after the fact realized that there are many cute ideas of how to share the news with your husband. Especially if they’re not home when you take the test.
Here are some cute ideas:
- Put a slip of paper saying, “You’re Going to be a Dad!” inside of a balloon that is labeled “pop-me”
- Wrap your positive pregnancy test up, or another gender-neutral baby item. On the box write: “Roses are red, violets are blue, I have a secret and here’s your clue!
- Bring him a drink with one these clever can coolers around it
- Write them a sweet message in a card
- Give them a calendar with your due date pre-marked. Find a reason to get them to flip to that month and watch their reaction
- Incorporate your pet by putting a sign around their neck or dressing them in a bandana with the message
- Go surprise party-style and decorate the house with signs and balloons before they arrive home
- Wrap up a cute countdown until baby gift
Pregnancy announcement to your family
Announcing the news to your family (parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.) can be as simple as a phone call or conversation, or a full-on orchestrated prank. There’s a lot of possibilities here!
Let’s break it down into some categories for you:
- Pregnancy announcement at family dinner: Use props or objects to let your immediate family find the answer for themselves, using items such as custom t-shirts, printed mugs or dinnerware, or a dessert made to order that unveils the message naturally throughout the course of dinner
- Announce pregnancy during a family activity: Use props or custom printed objects to reveal without saying a word; it can be during a picnic or a family reunion or even a day out at the family’s favorite park. Jigsaw puzzles with the message are another clever ideas!
- Pregnancy announcement during a family meeting: This is typically less creative and more straight-forward, since it’s hard to gather for a family meeting without it being pretty important to disclose the nature of the meeting in advance
Pregnancy announcement to parents and grandparents
Telling your own parents and grandparents is a very special occasion. Chances are, they are going to be absolutely over-joyed. A good friend of mine wrapped up coffee mugs that said, grandma and grandpa for her parents when it was their first grandchild. And I think you can take that in a bunch of different directions!
Watching them open the gifts with their new titles and letting the news sink in is priceless.
Here are some great ideas:
- Give them gifts with grandma or grandpa written on them
- Frame a picture of baby’s ultrasound and give it as a gift
- Wrap up a onesie with a message about being the best grandparents or being promoted to grandparents
- Gift them a cute countdown until they become grandparents
If the season is right, you could also consider a holiday gift like an ornament or a stocking embroidered with “grandma” and “grandpa”.
Ways to announce pregnancy to family at dinner
Family dinners can be the perfect setting to announce your pregnancy! You can get really clever with it or just be cute and straight forward. Just adapt it to your personality and willingness to plan ahead, hah.
Here are some ways to make it extra special:
- Custom printed plates are one easy way to go. It requires everyone to finish their food before the messages begin to show up
- Lottery scratch off tickets that announce the news
- Eggs to crack with a special message inside
- Wrapped up gifts, such as framed ultrasounds, mugs, or T-shirts with their new title
- A special dessert that reveals the news
- Use magic message-revealing mugs to serve tea or coffee with dessert
What about telling extended family and friends?
As you continue to think about sharing your news, you may want to tell a big group of people like extended family or friends all at once. Here are some ideas for you!
- Show up to a large family gathering or party wearing clever shirts that share the news for you
- Bring a small gift for everyone with their new role, like on a mug or ornament (uncle, aunt, cousin etc.)
- Bring a bunch of balloons with slips of paper inside. Tell everyone it’s this fun new game, and they all have to pop the balloons at once. When they find the slips of paper announcing you’re pregnant the real fun will begin
- Use pets or older siblings. If you have a pet or this is not your first baby, dressing your pet or older sibling in a shirt that says “big brother/sister” is a fun way to announce too
Pregnancy announcement ideas for social media
Not everyone will decide to announce their pregnancy on social media, but I know a lot of you will! I had fun with this over on Instagram with my second pregnancy. Here’s the picture I shared:
Now let me inspire some photos you could do:
- Dress in shirts announcing your new roles
- Take a picture of you two with a chalkboard or sign announcing the news
- Take a picture of you two holding a onesie or pair of baby shoes between you
- Take a photo with your pregnancy test to send to people
- Create a photo using scrabble letters to spell out “love” with the date you started dating, “marriage” with your anniversary date, and “baby” with the due date.
- Line your shoes, your husband’s shoes, and baby shoes up on the driveway, in chalk write your birth years
- Take a picture of you and your husband taking a “bun out of the oven”
- Take a picture of baking supplies on the counter with a chalkboard that reads “bun in the oven”
- Take a picture holding pickles and ice cream, people will put two and two together
- Pose a picture with baby things, laundry, and house a mess, write “Parenthood: coming ____”
- Take a picture with your partner holding up two bags of ice, put your hands on your belly
Ready to announce your pregnancy, mama?
As you can see, there is a lot of inspiration out there when it comes to sharing your pregnancy. Hopefully, after reading this article, you have a better handle on when you want to share your news and how to get it done!
One thing that’s super important is to make a pregnancy announcement plan with your partner. Even if you don’t want a big announcement, it’s important to get on the same page.
Discuss who you want to tell right away, whether or not you’ll put it on social media, and when you plan to tell your workplace (and theirs!). Discussing this now will prevent people from finding out before you’re ready.
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